Norma Mngoma reveals more secrets

Norma Mngoma has been through a lot with her much-publicised issues and separation with her ex-hubby Malusi Gigaba and this is probably the reason why she sounded aggressive and feisty during her interview with “My Own Kind of Beautiful”, a television program on Gau TV and Centtwins YouTube channel founded by twin sisters Innocent Sadiki, aka Mam-Letsoalo on Skeem Sam and TV presenter Millicent Mashile.

Norma (NM) sat down with Millicent (MM) and below are highlights of the interview:

MM ~What’s your take on women using a double-barrel or keeping maiden names after getting married?

NM ~ it’s an individual choice. I don’t regret changing my surname when I got married but I am excited to have my surname back. Surname change doesn’t change or mean anything, what makes the marriage is how you treat each other, the values and standards. I can be Norma Gigaba but then is my heart still there, am I happy? As young women, we get so excited after getting married especially the 1st time and we take the partner’s surname because we feel we now belong to their families and also as an expression of love but it’s not like that. Surname is just part of the process. In my next one, I will do a double barrel or even keep my surname. I changed my surname back to Mngoma even before the divorce could be finalized because I am not IN denial of reality. I did not want to hold on to things and give false hope to the community and say I am Mrs so and so. That purpose I gave it fully and served it with all my heart, I fought, I stayed but it has ended. I have no regrets with the journey and I have no bad feelings with the surname. I am still Gigaba at Home Affairs but in my heart, my businesses and everything I am doing, I am Mngoma. I am walking into a new chapter.

MM~ As a mom to boys, why is it important to let your sons see you reclaim your power?

NM ~ I want them to be best fathers one day and to know how to treat a woman and to not let another woman go through what I went through. They must learn from me. I am close to my boys and I teach them to pray, forgive and I always give them money to buy me flowers. I am grooming them in order for them to be the best partners that society expects men to be. Norma Mngoma Foundation grooms young boys.

MM ~ Are women more judgemental to you as a public figure?
NM ~ Yes, a lot, but I don’t take anything personal. If you don’t bring anything to my table and pay my bills, I don’t take you seriously, especially if you are not someone I can ask advice from. I react to society the way I like. I do things in my own way as I see fit no matter who says what.

MM ~ You have 1 million followers on Instagram which is huge and I am sure it comes with people always checking your life, your next moves, what you wear and other things?

NM ~ 50% of my followers love my dress sense and of course, I put efforts in what I wear. Dressing up is my life and I love doing it. Other followers are those who are after my scandals especially now with the court case but I am one person who does not entertain what happens around me even if I am in the front page on media. I am not my problems, they are just part of my life. I don’t nurse pain and I don’t allow problems to swallow me. Sometimes people ask me to take a break from Instagram but FOR WHO?