Mona Monyane shares how she survived her first abusive relationship

Actress Mona Monyane is still dealing with past trauma of a toxic relationship.

She says her unnamed then boyfriend used to lock her in her flat and threaten to rape her. But it didn’t just end with threats as he would rape her from time to time.

Mona reveals that she once defended herself with a fork. But the guy turned the story around and told her mom that Mona had tried to kill him.

“One boyfriend locked me in my flat and threatened to rape me. I had to defend myself by grazing him with a fork. He then called my mom and sayed I was trying to murder him… I had to crawl out the kitchen window to escape [sic].”

Every break up I have had has been bad.

Men don't take you putting yourself first well. They prefer you to suffer until they decide to be a better man for you.

If you leave before they decide, they loose their minds.

I'm still unpacking the trauma Ive experienced.

— Melanin Magic (@MonaMonyane) July 31, 2020

Mona stayed in that relationship despite it being toxic for half a decade.

The relationship might be over but the pain and trauma still lingers on. “I’m still unpacking the trauma I’ve experienced,” she says.

She acknowledges that she’s been through a lot with men who’s behaviour flip flops in a split second.

“I know toxic men. The ones who adore and love you one moment and then the next thing, you are looking at pure evil in the face.”

I know toxic men. The ones who adore and love you one moment and then the next thing, you are looking at pure evil in the face.

The things that have been said to me, the abuse I have endured…

I seriously have been through it all on this planet… YEY!.

— Melanin Magic (@MonaMonyane) July 31, 2020

“Being the “strong one” doesn’t mean the one who does not feel pain… It simply means we train ourselves to navigate our pain alone, so as not to burden others but truth is… it feels so good to have someone acknowledge that and help you every now and again,” she says.

Being the "strong one" doesn't mean the one who does not feel pain…

It simply means we train ourselves to navigate our pain alone, so as not to burden others but truth is… it feels so good to have someone acknowledge that and help you every now and again❤

— Melanin Magic (@MonaMonyane) July 31, 2020

She concludes by saying that talking about her experience has been a form of catharsis.

“I am finally free to tell my life story through my own words and that to me is liberating beyond comprehension.”

I will say this, I enjoy the freedom to speak my truth that my life experiences have afforded me. I have no one to answer to. I fear nothing.

I am finally free to tell my life story through my own words and that to me is liberating beyond comprehension.

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— Melanin Magic (@MonaMonyane) July 31, 2020